Ten signs you're not "just friends"

I found this slide show story on msnbc.com
Ira Glass said, "You know your're in trouble when the word 'just' appears before the word 'friends."

You're not "just friends" if...

1. "You think about him all the time (it doesn't matter if those thoughts are positive or negative."
2. "He still pushes your buttons"
3. "You hide your contact with him"
4. "You flirt even though you don't want him"
5. "You're ragging on his new girlfriend"
6. "You use his friends to get to him"
7. "You want to get back together"
8. "You're not in a new relationship"
9. "You don't introduce your ex to your new boyfriend"
10. "You're still having sex"

My first response to this story was how true these 10 things were, and how everyone who is friends with their ex should take another look at their current situation.

These are the top ten reasons why you're not "just friends." I'm sure deep down you know if your friends or "just friends" with your ex. The difference is...whether you can admit it to others. Everyone has a different opinion on this subject. I had guy friends in high school, and never dated any of them, nor slept with them. They were "just friends," and they really were, although none of them were my ex's. However, being an adult, married or not, guy friends can't be just friends. I strongly agree with that. and for the respect of my husband, I would never ask him to be ok with it. I currently don't speak to any of my friends because I live so far away, and because I'm married. I don't need anyone else in my life. I love my husband to much to care about any other guy. Even if I were single, being friends with an ex would be a bad thing. Like the article says, once you've seen each other naked, everything changes. I believe this to be true as well. I've been friends with ex's before in high school, and I know from experience that it doesn't work well. There is always flirting, jealousy, and curiousity. You don't want to see your ex with another girl if you still have feelings for him/her, and you get jealous. You will still flirt with your ex even if it is harmless. And you will always have the "what if" curiousity. And the other thing I've learned is, just because it may actually and sincerely be "just friends" to you, there's always two sides to every story. You're ex may want more from you and just not have the nerve to tell you himself.

There is always a reason for everything, as I believe. If your friends with your ex-boyfriend, take these 10 things from above into consideration to find out how your current relationship is working for the both of you. Guys and girls cannot be "just friends" unless one is gay. Even if they are not ex's, there will always be some sort of sexual tension on one side or the other.